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Key to My Style

Key to my happiness

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There is no key…. there isn’t. The key is me. I lost the awareness of it for a while. First time, when I finally had a life that I love. When my marriage was finally on the track that I envisioned, meaning kids. I got so happy that I remember telling my husband that I am so content that even if we stay in the flat that we are in at the moment for many more years, I am happy and will be. I couldn’t wait to see his smile and approval. I did not see it though. Instead I saw disappointment. ‘Are you kidding me’ He said…. It took me a while to understand that it does not mean that he isn’t as happy as I am, and it does not mean that he is embarrassed to live where we do. It simply means that he wants better for us and our family. So I got so confused with the whole happiness and for a while I stayed that way.

I recently suffered another miscarriage. I lost a boy that is, second boy to be exact. When we lost Zac (first miscarriage) I was fully and utterly devoted to sadness and ‘blameness’, so much so that I opened myself to hearing it and accepting it from others. So much so that all I was telling myself was that ‘I lost a baby’, ‘I am not pregnant’, ‘Everyone else is pregnant or getting pregnant’ , ‘Everyone else has two or more children and they are not even trying’.

The game of comparison is our unique and tailor made hell. There is no escape. The is no help. No matter how hard we try we loose. I was loosing.  Don’t take me wrong when that happened, Ben our first born was just over one year old and not only he kept me alive, he healed me daily too and I was also happy.

But I know now, and I finally feel it and get it, after loosing Gabriel (our second loss), that I cannot rely on my children, number of years between them, their health or their moods to make me happy. I cannot control any of that fully and it is simply not fair to depend on my children to make mama happy. That’s bullshit! I need to keep ‘my cup full’ and overflowing to share the happiness and make the best use of my talents and blessings to keep my family well.

There is one thing I always used to say as a little girl. I’d say ‘I am always happy, I just have bad days sometimes’. I don’t think I fully understood it then but I felt it and isn’t that the key? Feeling the life as opposed to overthinking it? It surely doesn’t serve me well when I do that. When I do that, I let fear decide and I focus on obstacles instead of being driven to grow.

So today, my message to self is, feel it girl, whatever you trying to think and overthink, drop it, step outside, dream it and dance your life like no one is watching. I have tangibly felt how fragile life is. It didn’t happen when I was ready and nothing else will. I can live a life that I desire today and today I do.

No matter what people tell me, I smile, I put make up on, I dress up, I have fun, I cry, I sing, I share my story and I heal. I don’t care about what is appropriate and what ‘should’ be done now. I am HAPPY and I always will.

Here is to crazy happy today.

I wish all of you bad days, good days, crazy days, fun filled ones and happy life.

Here are few of my very good days ;))

 

 

 

 

Love,

Gosia

Key to My Style

Key to getting inspired as opposed to coping looks

I have never understood the idea of ‘I need this dress’ when seeing someone looking amazing in theirs. I mean I have been in love with looks and still get the feeling but I don’t see the point in getting the very outfit someone else is rocking.

If it is one piece e.g. dress, jumpsuit, coat that I am feeling in love with and I feel that it is something that I could wear too, I wonder whether I already have something similar. If not I may shop for something similar, never really the same thing though.

If it’s an outfit that I feel drawn to, I wonder is the whole look something that could work with my body and skin tone, is it a detail in the outfit or is it the colours that I noticed? Then I let myself get INSPIRED. I go through my clothes and make it MINE. Sometimes it will look very similar to the inspiration, other times it won’t. It is super fun and it makes me realize that there really is always something to wear. You can do it by browsing through magazines or internet. I find Pintrest being the easiest lately. It’s so easy and fun making style boards, or any boards really.

I am sharing with you 4 different looks I put together this afternoon, it took 10 minutes. It really is that simple and helps you plan for shopping, you’ll spend less too 😉

I saw this and knew I have a simple grey t-shirt and this awesome turquoise necklace and here it is.

Here is another simple combo, I saw this and knew straight away that I can have the look with my top and skirt but added different accessories.

That’s when I reached for my shorts that I usually pair with a tank top. Love this idea of having it with a white shirt and a pop of colour heel.

This is when I got reminded to add belt to denim shorts. Also loved the idea of a statement necklace. Win win ;))

So please, next time you see someone wearing something you love, compliment them but stay yourself, if you must, get the same dress but in a different colour. Another thing you’ll avoid too is the game of comparison.

I hope that no matter what you are wearing today, you are loving it.

Love yourself and love your style.

Gosia,  xxx

Key to My Style

Key to Versatility of Boyfriend Jeans

Hello fabulous ladies and few great men ;))

I’m so happy to be sharing this post. The following are the 5 ways I like wearing boyfriend jeans. I looove this cut of jeans. The are flattering for most body types and super comfortable.

It is not only 5 ways to wear but also things you may wear in your first trimester of pregnancy. On these pictures I was exactly 12 weeks pregnant and fully going for comfort but at the same time liking to feel and look pretty ;)) This is the stage of pregnancy when most women still keep the pregnancy within the family and the closest friends and may not be going for bump exposure just yet 😉 Those jeans are pretty low rise so were perfect for the first 3-4 months. This was last time I wore them though as bump was just making appearance and lack of stretch in this type of denim stopped serving the purpose.

Back to ways to wear however, I am sharing with you the smart/casual as well as super casual and comfy. All the options are at most comfortable I must say. The block sandals I bought just before the photo shoot are amazing and can be worn with pretty much anything, pregnant or not.

This is very simple combo. Black sleeveless top, jeans, block sandals and all I added was jacket and scarf to give it all more colour (oh and my fave pair of glasses ;)) I love wearing jeans folded in all sorts of ways. Here I made them into 7/8 (one of the most popular length for pants at the moment).

 

 

 

 

 

For this one I simply swapped the jacket for a gingham style coat and a little clutch (much more subtle on colour, still cool smart/casual option).

 

 

 

This is super casual but I am breaking the typical T and jeans combo by making it blossom with flowers. What you think? I love putting sneakers on with shirts, fancy tops and even flowery skirts and dresses. I folded the jeans up a little higher to go with my ankle sneakers.

 

 

 

 

I just had to have a ‘dress over pants’ option here. So big season again and just so cool and practical. If you feel your dress is too short or you’re simply too cold, or for any other reason that leads to you feeling happy and fab, do it!

 

 

Shirt, jeans and a fave heel, enough said.

 

 

As per usual share your thought please. What do you think? What else would you add? What should we shoot next. Do you need advise in any aspect of styling? Message me here or go to my Facebook or Instagram pages.

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Thank you Justyna for another amazing shoot and the most gorgeous pictures. Everyone, please check out the page www.facebook.com/jkphotograhyaberdeen/

Have a fabulous week all and shine bright.

Love,

Gosia